The shell must break before the bird can fly.
The Ancient Sage (1884)
It is very important to keep order in life, which is like domino-you remove one piece, everything will go down. Some people can’t bear the «weight of the world on their shoulders». Some can. As far as I see it, it’s not that because one is worse than another, it is all about how one approaches the situations being created in life. Not being driven by the flow, of course, but by doing actions and accepting any consequences that could result in, positive or negative, what he/she could carry out of the situation. Some deal with things, some don’t. And a person who doesn’t will find a million reasons of why not to do so, which will sound pretty reasonable at the time, but in the end, the person would finish up regretting on that nothing was done. That’s how it always had been, and that’s how it will stay for the humanity. As for myself, I fully accept the consequences of all my actions, and I like to have control over my life.
For me, the way I deal out with events occurring in my life was always very important, since I was a little kid, I remember myself thinking about all the events happening around myself and how could I properly react to them. Fights at school, first relationships, first friendships.. All that meant that a whole lot of values had to be established, and I had to have a right person to do it. The person who would do that was and is my father. He taught me values of great importance, such as having to respect any person, to sort out the conflict not in fighting, but by words, and overall, how to deal with challenges that life sends and many more things. He helped me to confront the situation I got myself into with pride and self-possession.The learning was not composed only of his words though: I was always looking up at him and how he dealt with things, and that has taught me a lot as well. That helped me get through a lot of tough situations that occurred to me during my young teenage years. Unfortunately, in the past, due to a younger age I couldn’t fully understand that, and I think that in the future I would expand my level of understanding a lot further, but it is already very clear to me: without my father hammering these values into my head, I wouldn’t be able to quite reach the heights which I had reached with him. I can’t think of the best word to fully thank my father for how he contributed in my raising.
Having said that, honestly, I still see a great room of improvement for myself. I can be lazy at doing homework, just putting it on next day or even forgetting to do it. I may skip sports, which I change accordingly to the current season. I may not be as engaged in a conversation with other person as I would rather be. All these and many other things very well indicate that I have not actually reached the point where I could call myself a true success. The point is that no matter what is happening, and that’s where I got the
The lessons I learned from my father had led me to be able to value the right things in people: for example, in a friend, I value dignity, sincerity and integrity, and, of course, the ability to be able to stand up for a friends’ beliefs, even if they are contradicting with friends’ ones. As of a parent: obviously, I’m a future parent, a fully understand that not only the child, but the mother of my children deserves my utmost respect, help in any way and most importantly, honesty. If to speak about a teacher, in my opinion, he/she to be a unbiased person, who always values personal qualities of a student over his/her results, is always open for dialogue, and, to be a kind and dedicated specialist of the subject being taught. Of course, the list is expandable and debatable, but I think these particular values are, indeed, the most important.
All in all, it is necessary to have an inspirational person in life. The better is when this person is actually someone close to you, somebody not only on whose actions you can learn, but someone who will be able to transmit the knowledge to yourself. I am very grateful that my father has become so much of a person beyond the boundaries of ordinary parenting.